You might notice this in how you see yourself. • Do you feel less sure of yourself than you used to? • Do you ever come away from conversations feeling confused about what actually happened? • Do you feel like you’re often “in the wrong,” even when you’re not sure why? • Do you find yourself apologising for things that don’t feel like your fault? Over time, this can make you doubt your own judgement.

You might notice this in how you feel day to day. • Do you feel tense or on edge around them? • Do you feel relief when they’re not around? • Do you feel anxious before seeing or speaking to them? • Do you find it hard to fully relax in their presence? You shouldn’t have to feel this way in your own relationship.

You might notice this in your world becoming smaller. • Do you see friends or family less than you used to? • Do you hold back from making plans? • Do you avoid certain people or situations to keep the peace? • Do you feel like parts of your life have slowly faded out? Healthy relationships don’t take away your world.

You might notice this in who makes decisions. • Do you find yourself checking if something is “okay” before doing it? • Do they question where you are or who you’re with more than feels normal? • Do they have control over money or important decisions? • Do you feel like your choices aren’t really yours anymore? Control isn’t always obvious, but it can build over time.